Every relationship has rules. Unwritten, mostly. Unsaid, or, not needing to be said, sure. Our relationship, and I imagine most FLR scenarios, are no different. There are rules, agreed upon by both sides, that govern how this whole thing works. There are other rules, some would call them limits, that may be decided by only one party but they are agreed upon nonetheless.
Ours have changed over time, and I suspect they will continue to change. Tastes change, limits change, interests change, tolerances change and therefore the rules also must change.
Currently, these are our rules, with a bit of an explanation where required.
- No orgasms for him outside of agreed upon releases. Currently, I’m on an infrequent ruined orgasm release schedule at her discretion, with scheduled full orgasms limited to a maximum of 5/year.
- Caged when she wants. It’s not always, or nearly as frequent as some couples I’ve seen, and fluctuates. Usually 4-5 days/week. The first rule applies whether I’m caged or not, it’s more aesthetic/symbolic than anything.
- No talking about, asking for, complaining, etc. about orgasms. Period. It’s just not a talking point. Both parties know he isn’t cumming, what is there to talk about? It just keeps the conversation on other things.
- He doesn’t initiate sex/intimacy. No asking for it, no guiding it, nothing. Everything is at her discretion, when she wants, because she wants it.
- When she is done, everything is done.
- Everything is for her pleasure. His pleasure is irrelevant. If he happens to enjoy something she enjoys, great. If not, so be it.
- No touching, himself or her in an intimate way, without permission.
- Sex is with a strapon. His penis doesn’t come into play. She is pleasured with fingers, mouth, vibrator, etc.
That’s it really. Rules for a happy marriage.