1. Initiate discussion about cuckolding. Focus on benefits, limit discussions of negative outcomes. Discussion of benefits could include the following:
- Happy wife, happy life
- More satisfied wife = increased personal benefits for
him. These don’t have to be specific, vague is good.
2. Practice orgasm denial as required. This is important to maintain high levels of “good” hormones that make the cuckie affectionate and attentive. Frequent orgasms can lead to a tired and inattentive cuckie, this is considered a negative outcome and is to be avoided at all costs.
3.Consider intermittent draining of the testicles. Be cognizant that this does not occur too frequently and definitely not on his schedule. This is important to test the proper functioning of the equipment and provides pressure relief to the testicles, but it is not required. Do not allow the cuckie to choose a draining schedule as he is not in control of this activity.
4.Provide opportunities for intimacy to keep high levels of cuckie engagement and interest. It is important to set boundaries about the types of activities that may or not may not occur during episodes of intimacy. Activities to consider include:
- Kissing
- Cuddling
- Holding hands
- Massaging each other
- Touching genitals (clothes on or off)
- Soaking
- Masturbation
- Sex – this should be used sparingly, and with protection
(numbing cream, sleeves, and strict rules).
- Pegging
5.Toys may be used to provide cuckie with stimulation at operators discretion. Toys may be used during episodes of intimacy.
6.Consider a reward structure for good cuckie behaviour. This may take the form of points, stars, or other forms of currency that the cuckie may redeem for coveted activities. Do include a structure that supports both positive and negative reinforcement of desired behaviours. For example:
-Wife’s feet must be rubbed with lotion at bed time = 0
stars. Not rubbing feet = - 2 stars (negative
reinforcement)
-Cleaning wife after date = 2 stars (positive
reinforcement)
-Babysitting dogs while wife on a date = 1 star (positive
reinforcement)
7. Encourage cuckie to self-restrict activities. This increases cuckie’s sense of autonomy while limiting sexual pleasure. Let cuckie know that this pleases you. This may include:
- Strict no masturbation rule
- No PIV sex with wife
8.Strict rules about clean up procedures post-date with bull. Include type of clean up required, length of procedure, and equipment needed.
9.You may find chastity cage training useful at the beginning of cuckoldry, or continually, depending on your particular cuckie. This can help reinforce that he is not in control of his penis or his pleasure. May also be required in self-identified moment of weakness and is highly recommended when the bull is present. With time, cuckie will learn to feel secure in his cage and happy with the restriction. Cages are available in a variety of sizes, colors, and materials. Pink is always a good choice.
If at any time cuckie asks for draining, an orgasm, or crosses the boundaries during intimacy, implement immediate and swift action to correct the behavior. This may include (but it not limited to):
Spanking
Flogging
Deletion of points
A general rule you may find helpful: cuckie is not to ask for, initiate, hint at, complain about sexual activity or the lack thereof at any time, under any circumstance. All sexual activity is to be initiated and controlled by you as his operator. In time he will come to accept that he will be told when he is horny, when it is time to play, and when to release. It will become second nature, and you will have a docile, pliable, wonderful cuckie.